Did you have preconceived notions about what motherhood would be like? I did. I thought it’d be loving and wonderful all the time. (I mean, it is but it isn’t all at the same time.) I wouldn’t get mad at my kids. I would cherish every single moment no matter what. I knew the job would be hard and there’s no calling in.
This was a good day. :)
I also thought it’d be easy to get pregnant. I was afraid of childbirth. I would never ever ever do that one thing my parents did because I hated it. Or this other thing one of “those” moms does.
It has taken some time for me to accept the reality of motherhood for what it is and stop trying to make it what I thought it should be.
It’s fun. It’s challenging.
There’s laughter. There’s tears.
Memories. Hugs. Kisses.
Love.
Pain.
Anger. Frustration.
Guilt. Oh God is there guilt.
But I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
I’m not perfect and I don’t expect anyone else to be either.
Enjoy today, Mama. No matter what kind of day or week it has been – good, bad or somewhere in between – know that you are doing a better job than you think you are. (I have to remind myself too.)
Happy Mother’s Day!
Darcy is the founder of “Life With Darcy and Brian,” where she combines her love for education, board games, and crafting to create engaging learning experiences for kids. Her creative projects and writing have been featured in outlets like The Toy Insider, CafeMom, Mom.com, Parents.com, Country Living, and The Pioneer Woman.
Mandie
Thursday 15th of May 2014
Sometimes I think that I'm doing an awful job at being a parental unit, that I'm too harsh, that I expect too much, etc. But I sat down with my oldest one day & told her this is the first time she's a teenager & this is the first time I've been a mother figure to a teenager, we're both learning & it's not easy for either of us, we just have to try to do the right thing. Being a parent is not easy & anyone who says it is, is lying.